We all have heard about the half-baked truths on female orgasm. Most men and many women are still confused about how to achieve it. From ancient times, many things about female sexuality have been misunderstood and many a expert have tried to gauge a woman’s sexual response to try to demystify it. So, what exactly is the truth and what isn’t? Here are the top myths about female orgasms:
Myth: Women can only reach orgasm through vaginal intercourse
Fact: If the sexologists are to be believed, only one in three women tends to achieve orgasm during vaginal intercourse. Others can only reach the Promised Land through either through oral stimulation or by hand or through clitoral stimulation. What we need to remember is an orgasm is reached at the peak of sexual pleasure and can be achieved in various different ways. It’s also important to remember that achieving an orgasm has nothing to do with a woman’s emotional maturity or mental health. (Read: Sex without a penis – it’s possible)
Myth: Inability to reach orgasm means that there’s something wrong with the woman or her partner.
Fact: Women who suffer from problems with reaching orgasm could attribute it mostly due to the lack of awareness or the foreplay intensity and duration they want. Rarely, it could also be due to underlying medical conditions. One needs to take this seriously and understand that most of the medical ailments are treatable. (Read: Clitoris – things you really ought to know)
Myth: Only women tend to fake orgasms.
Fact: Well, even though women have been known since ages to fake orgasm, but this in no way means that men don’t do so. A certain notion would support that women tend to fake orgasm because they want their partner to think that they are satisfied with the act but men too tend to do it because they’re always expected to climax. (Read: Men can fake it too)
Myth: Vibrators can replace men
Fact: Sexual aids, such as vibrators tend to help a lot in upping the sexual performance of a man or a woman, but this in no way means they are a replacement for a male sexual partner. After all, no sexual aid can help in achieving the same level of intimacy and pleasure as being with a man can. (Read: Female masturbation – you don’t need a man to please you)
Myth: The goal of sex is to have an orgasm.
Fact: Sex is about the journey, and not about the ‘orgasm destination’. It is all about staying attuned to your partner’s body and enjoying the moment by feeling the sensation of closeness and passion. Please understand that there is no right ‘time’ or ‘way’ to achieve an orgasm.