Chanel Christian Gray
When you find your sexual match… goddamn have I been missing out
My [27F] partner [31M] has opened up a whole new world for me, we are sexually so compatible. In previous relationships always tried to be open and communicative about my wants/needs/desires and accepting theirs. However, I often got scared to admit some things i want/fantasize about due to reactions about topics, failed exploration attempts, etc. But with him, we both have shared so many things. And to my relief, hes so accepting, and excited to help me explore my sexual desires and fantasies. For example, I admitted i wanted to conquer my fear of ass play, and i want try it again (i had so many bad experiences i got scared to try any of it again) and he was all on board, and a couple of nights ago he licked and fingered my ass and pussy til i squirted. I had never squirted before. I gush often but never enough to make the sheets wet. Well the sheets were wet, and i had my mind blown. He was so caring, cautious, and very respectful of my boundaries the entire time.
I’m 27 yrs old… how in the fuck have I never experienced such open and accepting communication like this before? Now I feel like I’ve been missing out. I feel kinda stupid, almost mad at myself for ever having settled for less in my sex life.
lorett13: Oh it get’s even better over time and as you age with your partner.
MistressesSnowSlut: Amen! Dude here but for a long time after sex with a couple people, I felt like sex was very much overrated. I stopped chasing it for a decade. Then I met my gf and we blow each other’s minds, it’s amazing!
Glad you found a good partner, welcome to the club and congrats!
buttholesaplenty: It’s satisfying to have not only matching libidos, but matching attitudes and openness about sex. When you have that foundation and can build upon it, or fall back upon it in tougher times, it makes every other part of your life that much better.
whoreablyraised: Once me and my SO got to a point where we felt like we could finally open up about our sexual fantasies, no matter how crazy they seemed, our sex life SKY ROCKETED. Not only that but we knew within the first week together that we were the ones for each other without a doubt. Having sex with the person you were meant for is so amazing and so satisfying. It is the best feeling to be able to talk about and explore anything and everything sexually and be so sexually compatible. Happy for you!!!!
TheoreticalCall: This reminds me of how my partner and I are… it’s so much fun and what a great thing to be so totally accepted and leave behind any hangups or inhibitions.
Mellrish221: Welcome to the club!
You see the question pop up on this sub a lot in a lot of different ways. “Are me and my SO sexually incompatible”. Its a VERY easy question for someone who has experienced what having someone who is a match for your sexuality is.
Its practically a different level of communication and its pretty visible too when you’re just out in the world together as well. And that “what the hell have i been doing with my life?!?!” feeling is 100% natural lol. Well unless you experience it when you’re 16 or something. But yeah, having good sex with someone who wants it as much as you and has the same views/values on sex as you is literally a drug. Such a shame its so seemingly rare to see/hear about these days, since people will put up with unsatisfying sex lives/relationships all for the sake of not being alone but otherwise miserable.
Enjoy it! This sort of thing is the stuff that enables the “i wanna be with this person the rest of my life” sort of thing very easily. And its a comforting thought (least it was for me) to know that the bed stuff was 100% safe/secure and even though we may have fights/disagreements/bad days we can let that all go and just be each other in that capacity.
mildlyincoherent: I finally found my sexual (and intellectual and emotional) match. I proposed.
Life is too short to live without this kinda magic.
scoobydoobypoo: For once in my life, I can finally relate. Enjoy it. I know I am!
notoneofyourfans: You ma’am, are forever ruined, lol. I sure hope the love affair on other areas of your lives work out together. Because if the partnership fails for other reasons, sexual compatibility can be a hard box to tick sometimes. Have fun!
partydelights: I never believe “it’s too late” with regards sex and sexuality.
In as much as we need to wait until we’re sexually mature (at least physically) before we could engage in sex, finding that special someone, the process “joining” thoughts and eventually reach a new height all takes time and “growth”.
You may think that what you now have is the “best”. But if you continue to pursue your sex “adventure”, you’ll discover new things and scale new heights. Personally, I think there is a lot of truths in “tantric” sex. Also, our “connection” with another person could go beyond flesh and mind. This means sex and lovemaking can scale beyond flesh and mind.
Perhaps I sound too philosophical this morning 🙂 Yet again, sex is so personal to me. Likewise I believe if you allow yourself to expand sexually, you may yet find greater satisfaction. I can only wish you greater success future happiness. So please don’t feel stupid. The past was just another phase of growth.
flickin_the_bean: I met my bf at 29 and we have been dating for 2.5 years. I have never been with anyone who I am still so excited to do anything sexual with. I feel so accepted and respected. I have been open to experimenting with things I never thought I would be comfortable doing but I absolutely love exploring with my partner. Up until him I wasn’t convinced that having sexual compatibility and chemistry was possible after a few years. It’s mind blowing that I could have gone about life not knowing how good it can be.
whydoesnobodyama: Ugh I get you. I had the best sex of my life just recently with someone I’ve been friends with for over ten years. This whole time, it was so close, and I didn’t even know what I was missing. God damn.
vagubah: Just left a 6 year relationship and hooked up with someone on Tinder. We are very sexually compatible. Totally open and honest and accepting with one another and no fantasy left unexplored. We had sexy times for 8 hours the second time we met up. Amazing.
ShittyPoptart: Girl I know exactly how you feel, it’s the same between my partner and me. He has openly embraced so many of my fantasies and kinks, and vice versa, it’s so nice to have that in a relationship, I didn’t know it could be like this. I’m totally uninhibited with him.
Budcoffee: It’s hard to find that one person you can be that open with. Once you find them, hold on to them. Congrats and may you have more wild, fun nights.
Tildawntrlgy: I’m 25f and I’m barely getting open to all of this as well my mind is blown with my current partner he sounds exactly like what you described your partner as. Which is almost perfect because I was way too scared I grew up thinking sex was bad but it’s so much more than just that it really opens up my mind to different areas. I’ve also found out the squirt possibilities through this person and although we’re not together romantically goodness when we fuck it’s like all I want is him to explore and reach new limits with because he respects my boundaries so effortlessly and comfortably. Ass play is so difficult for me still I’m very tense when it come to it and well he can’t really hold back either when we try..Any advice there?
Tildawntrlgy: Thanks again I’m looking the site up after this yeah I do not want to be in pain anymore after trying that is the worst lol
WorstCunt: Because 27 is still young! And I say this as a 28yo. Even if you met this guy 5 years ago he would’ve been a different person and you may have had a completely different experience with him. Exploring your sexuality fully can a lot of take time, self growth and partners.
I recently met a guy who is 29 and he is saying the same things as you ‘how have I never met someone so open before?’ Well even 3 years ago I don’t think I would’ve been ready to discuss the things we are discussing and doing now.
It’s a sort of catch 22, you have to be ready to talk but you also have to find a partner who is ready to listen. Luckily you have and you’ll get better and selecting partners because of it. You have to chosoe those shitty past partners to know what you don’t want. Now you know what you do want. Don’t feel bad about that.
Theheroawakens: Teach me how you do it?
Any tips, advice?
springwanders: I didn’t believe in the term “sexual compatibility” before. Always thought practice makes perfect and there’s no such thing as “matching from the first time”. But man I was wrong. Sometimes practice can do little “improvements”, and sometimes things went so well on the very first time that it blows your mind.
SmallishBiGuy: I’m 37. I’ve had about 29 female sex partners. They were rarely ever as kinky or naughty as me.
jakscolon: Next time date a ex Mormon sex addicts to say the least