Is everyone a total perv inside their head or is it just me? (25F)
I’m a 25 year old British woman. I’m gay, but I don’t think that’s really relevant to this question.
Whenever I pass an attractive woman on the street I find it so hard to stop myself staring. Especially this time of year when girls start wearing more revealing summer clothes. Seriously like, every single pretty woman I walk past I’ll want to stare at her body.
I’ve gone into cafes and had coffee just because there was a pretty waitress, and I’ve walked down supermarket aisles twice because there’s a girl with a nice body bending over and I might get a look down her top.
Obviously I never do anything creepy and I really hope I don’t stare too obviously because I know how it feels when guys do that to me. But the filth that goes through mind sometimes. Makes me blush!! Some days if I haven’t had sex or masturbated for a few days I’ll be walking round with blood permanently rushing down into my crotch!!
Is everyone secretly like this? Or is it just me? It’s been the same ever since puberty. I’ve got a girlfriend at the moment and we have plenty of sex, but that doesn’t stop me staring!!
Posting this as a throwaway account for obvious reasons.
midipoet: I am not sure if the people who frequent this subreddit are representative of the population as a whole.
MeepoXL: Late 20’s Male. Pretty much the same. I thought it was a “teen phase” but I’ve basically remained the same ever since 13.
I probably have sexual thoughts about 90% of women I see.
I keep very subtle about my appreciation of women in public. I’d hate to make someone feel awkward because they feel like I’m being a predator lol.
I’ve definitely made an additional lap in a shopping isle because I’ve seen someone really attractive (it’s usually yoga pants).
blue_shadow_: After reading the comments in here, now I’m wondering if something is wrong with me because I *don’t* have these thoughts about hardly anyone I come across.
cocksuckaddict: Nope. I’m the same lol.
It’s been a while since I broke up with the ex and DAAAAAMN… I am crazy horny. All I think about is sex. And cock. And wanting one in my mouth, ass, pussy and between my tits. It’s distracting as hell lol. When I drink water or anything from a bottle I catch myself sucking on it as if it’s a cock.
Whenever I have a minute to myself I start rubbing my clit. I’ve been going out to the supermarket with a buttplug in my ass very often lately lol.
I miss sex and having cum on my face and ass. I have a really high libido and the fact that casual sex isn’t really my thing makes it crazy frustrating. Plus I have some exams coming up so I don’t have time to be fucking all day even though I wish I did lol. I think I might have to find a fwb to entertain me this summer….
ScorpioLoverboy: It’s only gotten stronger for me as I’ve gotten older. I’m 30 now.
Any attractive woman I come across in my life, I fantasize about what they look and smell like down there, and I fantasize about them sitting on my face and/or me eating them out from behind. It used to be a fantasy about fucking them, but for the past few years it’s about eating them out and plugging my nose with their scent.
It may have gotten worse for me because I haven’t had sex in 15 months and I work out now
more consistently than ever and am in the best shape of my life currently. So all this extra testosterone backed up has made me incredibly horny in my every day life. But like you, I’d of course never act on it inappropriately.
SuperSailorSunday: I’m a bi woman and I feel very similarly. I seem to get gayer with every year lol! But what I feel is more of a attraction/embarrassment/jealousy sandwich. I see a beautiful girl, feel embarrassed for staring at her, and envious of her beauty
dallyan: Nah. I’m pretty pervy too. Sometimes I work in the Uni law library and it’s a sausage fest. A delicious, delicious sausage fest.
Avinow: Is anyone NOT like this? Because I’m not like this at all and I’m starting to get discouraged about finding a partner who’s like me.
F4BubblesThrowaway: You’re certainly not alone. I’m also female. I wonder about her secrets: what sexy panties is she hiding under that skirt? Did she masturbate this morning like I did? Or did she sleep with a man recently and is currently walking around with his cum in her uterus?
totential_rigger: All these posts make me wonder if men have ever passed me in the street and thought these things about me…
As a straight woman I can confirm there’s the odd guy I will fantasise about sleeping with. It’s not that common though.
RileyDaBosss: Haha I have seen soo many 80+ year old dudes who go to a busy public place and just sit there and stare at women who walk past them, I find it hilarious to watch because it is soo obvious.
SnowyDeluxe: Honestly, only with my girlfriend. Random people in public don’t do anything for me I guess. I’m told on a daily basis by her “stop being gross.” So there’s that at least lol.
ThrillHo501: It’s not perverted to stare, but it is kind of creepy to leer at someone.
lee6874: it never goes away im 49 (m) and i still fantasize and every beautiful woman i see i picture what she would look like face down on the bed with my face burried in her crotch i imagine how sweet she would taste and how wet she was i can almost hear her sexy little moans i’m happy to say those dirty little thoughts are never going to go away if anything they will become more detailed as you get older enjoy
UndifferentiatedTea: I fantasize about both sexual and non-sexual things.
Sometimes it’s “I’d go down on her in a heartbeat” and sometimes it’s “she looks like an awesome partner for camping and/or cycling” and I’ll just daydream about having such a woman in my life.
Recently out of an 8-year relationship, looking for something not serious but still involving intimacy, maybe that’s the context for what I’m attracted to right now, both sex and a partner.
deeznutzchrist: Guy checking in can confirm I am a total pervert and not just with hot women either.
The variety is what gets me.
OneSillyMuffin: I only have dirty thoughts about my love
Freak_Party420: 32m. Adidas.
DonLaFontainesGhost: No, not at all.
I most certainly don’t imagine what you would do to those women in my head…
Seriously though, the comedian Larry Miller once said “if you ladies could see inside our heads for ten seconds, you would never stop slapping us”
Does that help?
ZeroCross: I’m usually like this as well. Recently, I’ve been taking anti-depressants which have taken quite a toll on my libido and I no longer do this. As such, I suspect everyone with a strong sex-drive is like this.
Bigsky425: It’s just natural, I’m 30m and if I see attractive woman in revealing clothes on, I’ll give a look and appreciate her beauty but I won’t stare out of respect. Plus I have a beautiful wife to come to each night a long with out 2 toddlers (girls) so I’m a happy man at the moment
sowhatcx: I’m a lesbian and scared of other lesbians like this lol. Nothing wrong with it…getting that kind of attention from the gender i’m into just gives me anxiety
Siddhantchib: I love how people will appreciate this post because it is coming from a girl
Same post from a guy and he is a pervert
jab_a_hut: I don’t think it’s you. I’m seeing someone now and I literally think about fucking him all the damn time. Spin class. Lunch break. When I wake up. So much so that I misread his texts as something sexual. (E.g. he texts 1 pound of chicken I read as 1 penis of cock)
When I’m not seeing someone I check out guys like crazy. Thank god for sunglasses so I can hide my pervy stares!
SepticStove: Sounds like most men….your in good company. Lol
MeowSterling: I’m not like this at all, and I don’t really like to imagine myself being a subject (not like I would be lol), but it’s harmless fun. As long as no one is walking up to me and saying it aloud, I don’t mind being blissfully unaware of what goes on in someone else’s head.
HappyInNature: There are three types of people:
1) those who are perverts inside their head.
3) those with a low libido.
Mentalfloss1: I’m an old straight guy and I’ve always loved looking at women. But my perspective has changed. I force myself to look away much of the time now because we old guys are creepy. I absolutely understand and agree with women who see it that way, by the way.
I’ve always liked and respected women but the respect part is the most important.
(I’m long married to a woman that I love and admire in every way, by the way.)
JJturn: I always wondered if I was a perv until I finally met a woman with a higher libido than my own. Now I sometimes find myself thinking, “Geez woman! Is that all you think about?!!!”
LOL It’s pretty great. : )
IkomaTanomori: Not everyone, but you’re not alone. It’s perfectly normal both to think about sex a lot and to not think about sex very much. It’s also normal to not think about sex most days, but some days think about it all the time, or in some situations – and vice versa, to think about it most of the time, but then sometimes not be in the mood or be focused on other things.
haverlyfn: Total fucking perv
NoPain-NoSuperSaiyan: I don’t like the term “pervert.” I prefer “sex enthusiast.”
WarriorPrincess720: Literally all the time. I’m a pervert woman in my 20’s too! Literally was at a show last night and couldn’t stop thinking about the guitar player’s hand going wild on my naughty bits.
I check out every pair of tits and ass on nearly any good looking girl and every crotch and ass on a guy with a killer fucking beard. Yes, I swing both ways obviously..
I think about sex nearly all the time however I’m honestly not insanely sexual. Just a freaky little pervert. Eh. *shrugs*
blackfury24: Echo the same as most people here. I can’t help but to admire the beauty of women. It has always been this way for me. I’m a masseur and a damn good one too because I enjoy helping those in pain. But I’d be lying if I didn’t say I enjoy massaging beautiful nude women on my table. Hell I’ve done a few pro-bono massages just because it was a gorgeous woman .
SexyThrowaway906: Late 20s bi female, and I am exactly as you are. I must masturbate or have sex with pretty high frequency to feel satisfied. I’ve come to love it about myself and really own my sexuality. You should too!
Iamchinesedotcom: I’m a straight dude… total horndog too
NoiseTherapy: > It’s been the same ever since puberty.
Absolutely this. 35M here, married and have 2 boys, age 7 and 9. Not sure if it’s relevant, but nothing makes it go away. It’s always there. I just had to accept that I’m very easily visually stimulated.
buginout: 26F! Let’s be friends.
BURRoak77: Weird enough I am more inclined to love sex with men and be with men, but when I see a girl my ‘type’ I do look at her ass and check her out. I don’t do this with men really.
bornfrustrated: That’s pretty normal. Even in the workplace we talk openly about guests or each other casually. No one cares that someone labeled someone else hot. I’ll even agree! I’m HR.
reginaldkillington: 30 year old guy here pretty much in the same boat as you. You just try not to be a creep always be respectful but numerous times a day you see an ass in the wild and makes your fucking heart stop.
I think its just humans being attracted to each other like animals i guess.
WildPhilosophy: > I’ve walked down supermarket aisles twice because there’s a girl with a nice body bending over and I might get a look down her top
> Obviously I never do anything creepy
This sounds an awful lot like using someone’s body for personal gratification without their consent, which is pretty much the definition of creepy.
madeinwhales: It gets seedier as you get older, believe me. Embrace it, enjoy it and get away with it while you’re young!
polarisgirl: Welcome to the club. You are not alone! Both my partner and I always do the once over for any chic that’s attractive and we discuss all of her attributes. And if we happen to be waited on by an attractive waitress, we try to talk her up and……. who knows?
Let’s be honest, we’re interested in the same things the guys are interested in. So, enjoy yourself, use your imagination and remember, they can’t say yes if you don’t ask
eric_andre311: I want to stare at every woman forever. You’re all so preeetty
klausita: I am the same as you (but I am male looking at female)
therealme0929: Oh, I am a total perv in my own mind! You’re definitely not alone.
I’m also female, 30 bisexual, I get more of an immediate physical attraction to men though. I find with women I become physically attracted to them as I get to know them, although there are exceptions and some do stand out at me and I find myself thinking naughty thoughts about them.
Thecrow1981: Same here
solidad: I think it’s natural for humans to “look” and think about scenarios that could happen. I used to think that only men thought like this but women are just the same as far as I can tell. they are just much more subtle about it usually.
So yes, I think most of us are secretly like this. Nothing bad or wrong with it either. Just don’t act on it if you are in a relationship. But those in a relationship should realize that looking is just looking and that’s it. I think humans are “geared” to theorize scenarios to gauge danger or safety. To me, it makes sense we do the same with sexual situations since sex is tied very closely to furthering life.
As a guy I certainly fantasize about people I see throughout the day. It doesn’t mean I want to cheat on my fiance at all. It just means I fantasize. And I hope she does too. It actually makes me curious about what she fantasizes about.
41 year old male by the way.
sineofthetimes: You know what they say: you’ve seen one girl naked, you want to see them all.
random252329: In the same basket as you, I wonder this about other people, if they are just more discreet than I, I suppose after reading the comments there must be different levels, but it’s good to know I’m not alone.
Side note, it’s not like I want to do anything sexual with them, I just can’t help but look
Cloverleaf66: My favorite is talking dirty to people in my head. Ohh ya I’m gonna suck your cock and eat you fucking ass pretty boy. Bend over. I’m bi-curious recently too because of this perviness so I’m doing it to women now too. Come sit on my face while my boyfriend fucks the hell out of you. Fun times… in my head.
FatPajamas: I’m a mid twenties dude and it definitely hasn’t gone *down*, just gotten more “ope, here comes an flood of absolutely insanely vulgar sexual fantasies I want to do to this female”, and then I continue to read my magazine or drink my latte or whatever the fuck, but it’s no less stronger than when I was like 16.
I will see a forty year old woman, of moderate attractiveness and I will think about a laundry list of sexual shit. Eating her ass, pinning her down, facefucking her, spitting in her mouth, having her spit in my mouth, spanking her brutally, humiliating her verbally/then coddling her, choking her until she almost passes out, assfucking her, slapping her in the face repeatedly until she cries then kissing her immediately after, spitting on the floor and grabbing her head by the hair and making her lick it up, eating her pussy, teasing her nipples with my mouth, restraining her with my body, and falling asleep with her naked on the ground with her in my arms.
Literally, some weird mix of that *will* enter my head as I sit there waiting for my check or whatever. And the weird thing is a fair amount of the time, if she’s horny, she could totally want that too… you just have no way to verify it. So you just sit there, maybe look up and accidentally make eye contact for a second, smile, and look back down at the menu.
What we need is like a monitor in our heads that detects horniness and beeps when there is a person in our general vicinity of appropriate gender of equivalent horniness.
I think that’s basically what Tinder is except it doesn’t really monitor horniness in real time.
Godofwar512: Congrats on being every guy ever
Source: am a guy
Dano1692: I’d say most are pervs fantasy and desire are part of human nature
NakedAndMasturbating: >I might get a look down her top.
>Obviously I never do anything creepy
Uhhh… yeah sure.
thestrawthatstirs: Can confirm this happens on the daily, as dirty as you can imagine
snotf: FWIW I think this has a lot to do with how much you’re getting sex from… whoever you get it from. I have noticed the way I view/fantasize people I encounter in public ebbs and flows in direct correlation with how much I am having sex. Just my thought.
MoD1982: Way I see it, I’m just as pervy as everyone else around me. I’m just more honest about it.
JackhusChanhus: Common enough
Maybe less obvious in women but most of us think it
peachyrabbit: Same here! I don’t like putting a label on my sexuality and I am in a happy relationship with a man, but we both are very keen to appreciate any pretty woman that passes us. We connected over a common interest it seems lol
littlefork: I’m a 28 year old bisexual female and I’m the same way! I’ve found over the years that I definitely check out other women more than men even though I’m attracted to both. I just love the female frame and femininity in general. Sometimes when I’m with my SO (who is male) we end up checking out the same person which is fun and we have a giggle or “wow” moment together. I wouldn’t feel too bad about it, some of us are just wired this way. 😉
alfredo094: I do it more passively than you but I do it all the same. I wouldn’t describe it as “being filthy”. I don’t think there’s anything wrong about liking someone else or about wanting sex.
AngryDingo: I’m the same also, I’ve got more pervy with age, and also since I’ve stopped being a serial monogamist about a year and a half ago.
jonnyp1992: I always find myself looking at girls. I never make it obvious.. but i do it. I feel bad for it but i really cant stop myself
thesuper88: You sound exactly like me only I’m a straight male from the states. I also have a bit of anxiety about the totally natural feelings because of how it may make women feel. Like I wrestle with some small guilt over it. So I may never go into a Cafe for a pretty waitress or maybe won’t often actually go down that aisle with a cute girl there. If they knew my motivation they may be creeped out even if I am not objectifying them but simply noticing someone attractive. The ideas still arise plenty though. Especially if it seems to have been a bit since I last had sex.
So I don’t know if it’s everyone. But I’m certainly that way. People have told me they’re not like that, but I don’t know if they’re saving face or being straightforward.
Faemn: I’m like that and it’s intense to the point where it’s a problem
yrddog: Lord I certainly am
em_square_root_-1_ly: I’m the same way. Not as much in the colder months, but my libido goes up in the spring and summer, so I’m reaching my regular perv levels again. Plus people wear less clothing when it’s nice out. 🙂
If relevant: 22F, bi
Smokeandmirrorshere: I am like this. Never used to be but for the last year maybe , I have been a complete perv. Plus, I am bicurious so no one is safe from my thoughts.
teusz16: I pretty much imagine myself in every girl I come across, not gonna lie. Totally normal.
B3n_Dov3r: Yes, it’s called hormone and living.
kat33c: You’re not alone. I’m a female and feel the same as you. I think it’s just our hormone levels are higher than usual.
pxsls: I have a decently high sex drive and think this way fairly often. Just enjoy it. Gives you lots to share with your partner. Haha.