ORAL SEX TECHNIQUES
SUPER SLOW & SENSUAL
Slowing down is a powerful way to boost your man’s pleasure by delaying his build up to orgasm. It will also make him blow a bigger load. Instead of performing oral sex on him as you normally do, completely slow down your movements to a point where you are barely moving at all.
Slowing down like this has a strange effect on him. It will automatically feel more sensual and intense for him, and he will have enough time to feel your lips and tongue gradually move over every millimeter of his dick. Slowing down works especially well if your man suffers from premature ejaculation.
When I say “Super Slow,” I mean that you are going to kiss him, lick him and suck him at a snails pace. The added benefit of this is that it makes giving him oral sex a whole lot easier!
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WET & SLOPPY
It’s hard to describe why giving your boyfriend extra wet and sloppy oral sex works so well. I wish I could give you a perfect explanation, but the closest I can get is that it feels more “silky” and smooth. You may be thinking that this answer isn’t as precise as the rest of my advice on oral sex, but it’s the truth. Just try it out on your man and see for yourself how much he appreciates it.
There are a few different ways to increase the wetness and “sloppiness” of your blow jobs…
Lube – There is an enormous range of lubes that you can use when giving oral sex to increase the wetness, just make sure that you choose one that is “edible” so that you get to enjoy it as much as he does and don’t have to deal with any unpleasant tastes.
The Right Kind Of Condiment – There are a few condiments that you can use that not only taste great but can make your BJ a whole lot wetter. These include cream, maple syrup, honey and even chocolate syrup.
This instructional video may be a bit shocking for you, but it will teach you how to build sexual tension, keep your man thinking about you and how to have passioniate sex by whispering some very simple “dirty” phrases in his ear. Check it out here to learn how.
Chewing Gum – Right before going down on him, try chewing a piece of gum as it stimulates saliva production naturally.
Deep Throating – When you deep throat your man and stimulate your gag reflex, you naturally and quickly produce large quantities of saliva. While it might not be the most pleasant feeling for you, it can be a useful shortcut.
I talk about enthusiasm a lot in Chapter 1 of the Blow Job Guide, but many people disregard it. Enthusiasm is one of the easiest techniques you can use, but also one of the most effective ways to give your man more pleasure. It’s also a technique that your husband can use on you too.
You know how hot it feels when a guy you like is eager to get you into bed and have his way with you? Or that feeling when your man seems compelled to go down on you and eat you out with every inch of his being? Your husband feels the same way when he sees you eagerly and enthusiastically pull his pants down, massage his testicles and give him a blow job, it’s a massive turn on for him.
Keep in mind that this principle holds true for your entire sex life…so if you want to add some spice to the bedroom, instead of giving your man a peck on the cheek to say goodnight give him an intense, passionate kiss. To show you just how important enthusiasm is, here are 4 separate discussions on the internet forum Reddit, where the top voted sex tip for pleasing your man is to simply be enthusiastic. It’s so underrated, but clearly so vital.
Here are a few other ways that you can be enthusiastic…
- Instead of hugging him when you are lying in bed together, grab his arms and try to pin him to the bed.
- Instead of waiting for him to change positions when you are having sex, grab him and put him in the position you want next. Check out the illustrated Sex Position Guide to give you a few ideas!
- Instead of being quiet during sex, whisper exactly what you want from him in his ear. The Dirty Talking Guide will give you hundreds of examples of what to say to your man!
The point I’m trying to make is that when you are giving oral sex to your man, it’s going to feel a lot more intense for him if you are enthusiastically licking, sucking and slobbering over his penis like a woman possessed, intent on using every ounce of her being to satisfy her man. It’s much more effective than if you were silently going about it like you were changing a care tire.
VARIATION IS YOUR FRIEND
I’ve already talked about the importance of variation in Chapter 2, but I want to mention it again as studies have shown that variety boosts sexual satisfaction. Variation is an obvious, but often overlooked oral sex tip that will keep your man constantly looking forward to your blow jobs.
Men desire sexual variety even more than women do, so if you just use the same two techniques day in, day out, every time you give him oral sex, then your man is going to get bored FAST. Keeping your sex life fun and preventing boredom is the whole purpose of the Blow Job Guide after all…teaching you numerous different oral sex tips, techniques and ways to keep your man completely satisfied today, next week, next month and next year.
MAKE IT A SPECIAL OCCASION
Your man is going to adore the idea of getting a BJ three times per day from you…but the truth is that too much of a good thing is BAD.
If you get to eat your favorite meal three times per day, every day, you will adore it at first. But as the days and weeks pass, you are going to start getting bored of it and will start craving different foods and flavors. Eventually your “favorite meal” will stop being your favorite meal and you will want something different.
Giving your man oral sex is similar to this…the prospect of getting a fellatio from you once or twice a day is going to sound fantastic at first and no doubt he will enjoy it. But if you keep this blow job routine, it will stop being so special for your man.
To prevent this, you need to take the Goldilocks approach…not too much, not too little.
For some couples, this means performing oral sex just once or twice a week while, for other couples, it could be almost every day. It all comes down to personal preferences, sex drive, and desire.
LOCATION, LOCATION, LOCATION
It’s natural that most couples spend the majority of their sex life in the bedroom. The same applies for most couples when it comes to your “oral” sex life. But if you never venture outside of the bedroom or only do it rarely, then you are missing out on a treasure trove of incredible oral sex locations where you give your man an entirely different experience.
Of course, there are obvious places like giving him oral while he watches TV, in your bathroom and in your car (just make sure not you’re not breaking any laws!). But, there are also a bunch of other great places where you can give your man oral sex like when you are both alone in the wilderness. Think about the top of a mountain, on a deserted beach or even on a cliff looking out to sea. Again, just make sure you’re not breaking any laws.
Asking him to come help you in the kitchen, before dropping to your knees and surprising him with a blow job is going to leave him feeling a little confused…but also very happy. The same is true if you are both at a house party and you grab him, lead him to somewhere private and then start using some of the oral sex techniques you learned from this guide on him.
One oral sex technique that regularly gets overlooked is “starting small.” Many students read detailed instructions like the Blow Job Guide, then rush to find their man and try out every technique they’ve just learned.
This eagerness is understandable, but it’s also the WRONG approach.
You don’t want to give everything away at the start or your blow job. Otherwise, your man will have nothing to look forward to and it also sets his expectations sky high of what else you have in store for him.
Instead, you want to start off on a slow, but solid footing to grab your man’s interest by using some simple oral sex techniques on him. Then as you continue, you want to build the intensity higher and higher steadily using more satisfying and pleasing oral sex techniques on him. Towards the end of your blow job, you should now begin using your most powerful techniques on your man so that a crescendo of wild pleasure engulfs your man as he orgasms.
Think of it as a performance, starting out slowly, gradually building up the pleasure, before finishing off so that he cums in the most extreme way
The techniques I cover in Chapter 2 are perfect for starting off your blow job, before moving on to the oral sex techniques in Chapters 3 & 7 to build the amount of sexual enjoyment you’re giving your man. Check out Chapter 4, 5 & 9 for tips on finishing your blow job so that your man almost passes out from the pleasure.
DOMINANT OR SUBMISSIVE
If you’ve read our BDSM Guide, you’ll know that you can add elements of domination or submission into almost any sex act. The same goes for when you are giving your man head!
Let’s start with some ideas for dominating your man with oral sex…
Restrain Him – Tying your boyfriend up and making him immobile before sucking his cock is an easy way to dominate him. Just make sure to use easy-to-remove restraints that don’t cut off his circulation. Two popular ideas are tying his arms to the bed posts or handcuffing his arms behind his back.
Push Him Down – An easier technique is to push him down on the bed or the sofa and keep your hands on his stomach so he can’t get back up again.
Dominant 69 – Another fun way to dominate him is to get in the 69 position, with him on his back and you on top. Sit right down on his face so that he knows who’s in charge and give him as much oral attention as he deserves for eating you out. Just make sure he can breathe!
Now let’s learn some submissive oral sex techniques to use on him…
Get tied up – This one is obvious. It works best if your hands are tied behind your back, but they can also be tied above your head.
He’s in control – When your husband places his hands on your head and controls how deep and how fast you are taking him, he is firmly in control and setting the pace. Of course, it’s a good idea to talk to him beforehand to make sure he doesn’t accidentally hurt you.